I received this message through my contact page and since it’s the kind of question a lot of people have, I thought I’d turn it into a blog post. I am 31, married, and working as expatriate away from my husband. Not only that I have an extremely high libido but also I am using […]

I recently found myself in yet another conversation with a longtime kinky player who made a disparaging comment about vanilla sex. If you’re not familiar with the term, it pretty much means anything sexual that isn’t BDSM, and it’s often used dismissively, as if sex that doesn’t include leather, whips, or pain is boring. Although […]

One of the most common questions I hear about polyamory/open relationships/non-monogamy (aka poly) is “how is that different from cheating?” I can understand the confusion- if your definition of “cheating” is “having sex with someone other than your spouse,” then you’re likely to equate poly with breaking the rules. But I always wonder about that- […]

I’ve already written about how much fun I had at Momentum. Somehow, in the middle of all of the presentations, events, and conversations, Cunning Minx and I found a few minutes to sit down and chat. This interview first posted on Polyamory Weekly and is reposted here, with permission. Click on the play button below […]

The news sites are all a-flutter with the latest news! A doctor has finally found the G-spot! [Insert your favorite joke about it being about time that a man figured out where it is. I’m getting tired of them.] This isn’t the first time that science has flip-flopped on this. Back in 1982, sexologists Alice […]

I recently got sent  the following question for a sex advice column for Dick-n-Jane.com (reprinted here with permission). If you have questions about sex, please get in touch– I’d be glad to offer what I can. So far in my life I’ve only been able to have a vaginal orgasm about three times from what […]

I suppose I should start by coming out of the closet as an atheist. More specifically, as a jewish-pagan-atheist, as I once told a very confused Mormon missionary who accosted me on a sidewalk. I grew up non-practicing Jewish in the suburbs of New Jersey. I did have a bar mitzvah, mostly because a lot […]