One of the things that often surprises people is the fact that being queer, kinky, and poly doesn’t have to mean that someone is promiscuous. “Promiscuous” is such an interesting word. My dictionary has two definitions for it: having or characterized by many transient sexual relationships demonstrating or implying an undiscriminating or unselective approach; indiscriminate […]

This post first appeared on Sinclair Sexsmith’s blog. Sinclair has been interviewing different folks about their experiences with polyamory and open relationships. The series is definitely worth checking out. 1. What insight about polyamory/open relationships would you share with your younger self? My partner and I have been together for over 20 years and we’ve […]

Here’s a question that came my way that I think a lot of people will resonate with. My partner (male) and I (female) have mismatched libidos and this has been very hard for both of us because of the cultural garbage that we are fed about the different roles of men and women in sexual […]

Every so often, I see an article or hear someone who says that polyamory is an alternative to cheating. In my opinion, that’s mixing apples and oranges. Polyamory isn’t an alternative to cheating, it’s an alternative to monogamy. So are swinging, having a triad, polyfidelity, open relationships, a single person having multiple partners, and other […]

I received this message through my contact page and since it’s the kind of question a lot of people have, I thought I’d turn it into a blog post. I am 31, married, and working as expatriate away from my husband. Not only that I have an extremely high libido but also I am using […]

One of the most common questions I hear about polyamory/open relationships/non-monogamy (aka poly) is “how is that different from cheating?” I can understand the confusion- if your definition of “cheating” is “having sex with someone other than your spouse,” then you’re likely to equate poly with breaking the rules. But I always wonder about that- […]

Though it’s 9 months old, I just got pointed to the article The Lust Frontier: Why Can’t We Make Open Relationships Work?  by Meghan Murphy. I have to admit that I was a bit surprised by the tone of the article, which is all about how many people try open relationships and have it not […]