One of the most exciting things about fantasies is that they let us explore and get turned on by things we might not want to actually do in real life. And sometimes, we get turned on by things that we might not even want to admit to thinking about. But that doesn’t mean that those […]

One of the things that often surprises people is the fact that being queer, kinky, and poly doesn’t have to mean that someone is promiscuous. “Promiscuous” is such an interesting word. My dictionary has two definitions for it: having or characterized by many transient sexual relationships demonstrating or implying an undiscriminating or unselective approach; indiscriminate […]

About ten years ago, Laurie Toby Edison published Familiar Men, a book of non-erotic nudes of men. It’s an amazing book, and I was proud to contribute The Day I Found My Ass for it. Edison captured some deeply moving images of men of many different ages, races, and backgrounds to show how our perception […]

This looks like a really great research project. There’s not much information about how lesbian/queer mothers of color talk with their children about sexuality, so everyone pretty much has to figure it out on their own or with friends. It’s about time that someone gave it the attention it deserves. See below for info and […]

Things have been really exciting around here lately. Aislinn and I have been on the road to get the word out about The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure and we’ve had a great time. So far, we’ve been to Boston, Seattle (twice), Portland, LA, San Diego, Albuquerque, Santa Cruz, and a bunch of places throughout […]

This is really amazing news. For the first time, a lawsuit has been filed because of a surgery performed on an intersex child. For many years, medical professionals have pressured parents of children with intersex conditions to consent to surgery to try to “fix” them. Not only do the surgeries not do what the doctors […]

On a recent plane trip, I had the row to myself. I turned off all three video screens in my row because I dislike having a movie or TV show running if I’m not looking at it. Moving images catch my eye and I find it easier to not have them going than to ignore […]