I suppose it won’t really surprise anyone who knows me that I like to get fucked. After all, I wrote a book all about prostate play, I teach workshops on anal sex, pegging, and prostate massage, and I’ve been saying that the world will be a better place when more men take it up the […]

When it comes to creating a sexual connection with someone, one of the most useful things you can do is play the long game. That means that rather than only focusing on what can happen tonight or right now, you lay the foundation for the future. Of course, there’s still plenty of possibility for a […]

Are you ready to learn all about prostate play? I’m teaching a whole weekend of classes in San Diego with Sabrina Morgan and Monique Darling. It’s going to be an amazing time and I can’t wait to see you there! We’ll be covering everything you need to know: prostate play basics, working with energetic sexual […]

Over on Facebook, Gloria Brame recently posed the question: Do you change when you go on vacation? Do you become someone you are not at home? Topic came up in therapy today. The answers were pretty varied. Here are a few of them. True side can come out not so much different oh yes, eagerly […]

Here’s a question that someone sent to me that is definitely worth asking: Is it possible to accidentally sexually assault someone? My short answer: yes. And I think there’s a lot to say about this. One of the biggest difficulties when we’re talking about sexual assault and consent is the question of what consent is […]

One of the things I’ve noticed is that a lot of people seem to think that if they could just figure out the perfect setup, or find the right communication patterns, or create the ideal situation, their relationships would be stable. In fact, I used to believe that myself. And I eventually came to see […]

Last night, I was chatting with a friend and we started talking about how a lot of people just don’t get her. While she and I clicked pretty much from the start, she told me that when she meets people, they don’t always have the same easy conversation and connection that she and I have. […]