I’ve written about [SSEX BBOX] before because it’s such an amazing project. The filmmakers have been interviewing smart, thoughtful, sexy people in São Paulo, Barcelona, Berlin and San Francisco, four cities known for sex-positivity and celebration of sexual diversity. They’re putting together a fantastic documentary and the last time I spoke with them, they were working on getting Portuguese, Spanish, German, and English subtitles […]

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it means to be empowered. It’s a question that frequently comes up in discussions about sexuality, sexism, porn, choice, and sex-positivity. I recently ran across this post on the topic by Jennifer Kesler which points out some of the ways in which this word is misunderstood and […]

I have a confession to make. Once upon a time, I was a Sensitive New Age Guy. I suppose I should explain what I mean. As I’ve written in other posts, I’ve always been rather dainty. And in my struggles with the Act Like a Man Box, there were several years where, rather than rejecting […]

A post on HuffPo Women from a few months ago is making the rounds again. Author Yashar Ali’s article A Message to Women From a Man: You Are Not “Crazy” makes some excellent points on the ways that some men use accusations of craziness to control women: My friend Anna (all names changed to protect […]

One of my favorite sex nerds, Dr. Debby Herbenick, recently retweeted something that I’ve been thinking about for a while: true. “@hotaction: Everyone should spend some time looking at photos of naked old people because that’s what the future looks like.” — Dr. Debby Herbenick (@mysexprofessor) December 18, 2011 Today is the 20th anniversary of […]

Last week, I was chatting with a friend who was telling me about her polyamory difficulties. Specifically, she’s perfectly happy having multiple partners, but some of the guys she’s met have tried to convince her to be monogamous with them and she’s rather frustrated with that, understandably. Her story reminded me of the first cat […]

Jaclyn Friedman, the author of What You Really, Really Want (an amazing book that I think everyone should read), has a guest post over at feministe.us about the ways that women attack and shame other women around sexual assault. It’s a great read, but then, pretty much everything she writes is. One of the things that […]