Why Can’t We Have Good Articles About Polyamory?
Though it’s 9 months old, I just got pointed to the article The Lust Frontier: Why Can’t We Make Open Relationships Work? by Meghan Murphy. I have to admit that I was a bit surprised by the tone of the article, which is all about how many people try open relationships and have it not […]Read More
Request For Input: How Do Poly Folks Manage Attachment In Your Relationships?
I’m thrilled to announce that my workshop “Sex, Shame, & Love” has been accepted for the OpenSF, taking place June 8-10 in San Francisco. The event will bring together like minded people ready to share, explore and dialogue on creating acceptance of the non-monogamy community. This is a topic near and dear to my heart, […]
Polyamory: Some Kitties Are Just Like That
Last week, I was chatting with a friend who was telling me about her polyamory difficulties. Specifically, she’s perfectly happy having multiple partners, but some of the guys she’s met have tried to convince her to be monogamous with them and she’s rather frustrated with that, understandably. Her story reminded me of the first cat […]Read More
The Oxymoron of “Negotiated Infidelity”
CNN.com posted a story today about former sugarbaby Holly Hill’s perspective on men, sex & fidelity. She’s of the opinion that men are going to stray/cheat anyway, so women might as well make room for that. Or as she puts it, “It’s better to walk the dog on a leash than let it escape through […]Read More
Having Trouble Finding Casual Sex
Over on the Good Vibrations Magazine, I received a comment from a woman whose husband travels a lot. The two of them have a non-monogamous relationship and she’s had some difficulty finding casual partners: I wanted to address your concept of having casual sex in a positive fashion, and how difficult that seems to be, […]
A Map of Non-Monogamy
via Franklin Veaux I’m not convinced that this accurately describes all of the ways that people are non-monogamous, but it definitely captures many of the complexities and the relationships between different structures. I especially like his explanation for making this chart: I’ve been told, many times, that the word “polyamory” is not really necessary, as […]
Love, Romance, Fidelity, and FWBs
CNN posted an article today called “The Downside of ‘Friends with Benefits,’” which is another example of someone writing about sex without taking a look at their own assumptions about sex, relationships, and how people work. The focus of the article is the increase of STIs and the claim that having more than one partner […]