I’m a big fan of Brené Brown. Her book I Thought It Was Just Me changed my life by giving me a much clearer picture of how shame works and the language to talk about it with others. In fact, I respect her work so much that I posted two videos of her TED talks […]

Last week, I went over to Reid Mihalko’s place with a bunch of sex geeks to watch some DVDs about building and promoting a business. At one point, the speaker said something that I think connects to a lot more than branding and teaching. “People Protect What They Create” One of the patterns I’ve seen a […]

I recently got sent  the following question for a sex advice column for Dick-n-Jane.com (reprinted here with permission). If you have questions about sex, please get in touch– I’d be glad to offer what I can. So far in my life I’ve only been able to have a vaginal orgasm about three times from what […]

There have been quite a few articles and blog posts lately discussing whether men and women can have friendships without sexual desire getting in the way. There’s something in them that I see over and over that annoys me. Quite often, the shorthand for non-sexual friendships is a “platonic relationship.” Of course, that’s generally used […]

Though it’s 9 months old, I just got pointed to the article The Lust Frontier: Why Can’t We Make Open Relationships Work?  by Meghan Murphy. I have to admit that I was a bit surprised by the tone of the article, which is all about how many people try open relationships and have it not […]

I’m thrilled to announce that my workshop “Sex, Shame, & Love” has been accepted for the OpenSF, taking place June 8-10 in San Francisco. The event will bring together like minded people ready to share, explore and dialogue on creating acceptance of the non-monogamy community. This is a topic near and dear to my heart, […]

This past weekend, I was a speaker and panelist at the BIL Conference. It was an amazing time, with some wonderful speakers. And of course, having the chance to connect with other sex educators and geek out was great. During one of the presentations, a participant asked a question about how she could set some […]