It’s a cliche that before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes, but that’s because there’s a lot of truth to that statement.  After all, once you’ve experienced something from another person’s perspective, it’s much easier to imagine what it’s like for them. That’s one reason why I think pegging can […]

There area lot of ways in which pain can get in the way of sex. Health issues, pelvic pain disorders, STIs, and injuries can all make it difficult to relax and feel good. But recently, I got a question from someone that inspired me to do a little research. It’s pretty common for people to […]

One of the biggest challenges I faced as I grew into adulthood was learning how to deal with the fact that the word is full of uncertainty. I remember being a kid and being obsessed with the rules of games, with making things fair, with carving everything into this and not-this. From what I know […]

There’s a youtube video making the rounds of a TEDxSF talk by Nicole Daedone, founder of OneTaste Urban Retreat Center, and there’s a lot of great stuff there. She talks about many of the challenges we have around sexual shame in general, and female orgasm in particular. She speaks with authenticity about topics that many […]

Psychology Today posted a piece by someone with a PhD in computational neuroscience and someone with a PhD in biologically inspired models of machine learning, which apparently qualifies them to make some remarkable statements about gender, sexuality, and relationships. They seem to prefer making some remarkably reductionist and essentialist claims about how sex works, along […]

Each year, the National Sexuality Resource Center brings undergraduate, graduate, and post-doctoral students in sexuality from around the country to San Francisco for the Summer Institute on Sexuality. It’s an amazing opportunity to visit an amazing city during one of the most beautiful times of the year and to learn plenty of fascinating stuff about […]

I’ll be teaching a workshop on the G-spot at the Looking Glass, a fantastic dungeon and play space in downtown Oakland. Come on by and get all your questions about G-spot play answered! G-spot Pleasures! At the Looking Glass, Jack London Square, Oakland, CA April 3, 2011 2-4 pm Email to RSVP and get directions […]