CNN.com posted a story today about former sugarbaby Holly Hill’s perspective on men, sex & fidelity. She’s of the opinion that men are going to stray/cheat anyway, so women might as well make room for that. Or as she puts it, “It’s better to walk the dog on a leash than let it escape through […]

This post also appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine. There’s a new article on ways that people are creating new visions of what monogamy means on the Psychotherapy Networker site. And while The New Monogamy is written for therapists and other mental health professionals, I think that there’s a lot of wisdom there for anyone […]

From Lee Harrington’s LJ Spirit of Desire: Personal Journeys in Sacred Kink In 2009, Lee Harrington’s “Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond” opened up the dialogue around altered states of consciousness, sexuality with intent, sex magic, and BDSM and its intersections with faith to an audience hungry for information. Now, it’s time to […]

I recently wrote about some of the things that I see causing conflict between sex-positivity and feminism. There’s quite a bit more to unpack here and I’ve been sitting with it for a while. It seems to me that these two movements have a lot to offer each other and could be really strong allies, […]

Over on the Good Vibrations Magazine, I received a comment from a woman whose husband travels a lot. The two of them have a non-monogamous relationship and she’s had some difficulty finding casual partners: I wanted to address your concept of having casual sex in a positive fashion, and how difficult that seems to be, […]

Please pass this along to anyone who might be interested. Call for Participants: Sexually Able Sexually Able aims to bring light upon sexuality and dis/ability, and create a path for peoples’ voices to be heard. What is it? It’s a large scale survey of self identified people with disabilities and their partners.  Eventually, it’ll be […]

I received a comment recently from someone that I think brings up some really important topics: Unfortunately I found that there’s this binary in the feminist and/or sex-positive worlds: either you are against all porn and BDSM etc or you are sex-positive and therefore are unwilling to admit that sexuality all too often has a […]