This post also appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine. One of the most important ways to help foster positive changes in peoples’ behaviors is to use a risk reduction approach. Rather than requiring 100% compliance with an unyielding rule, this philosophy says that any movement in a more healthy or safe direction is a good […]

I recently wrote about some of the things that I see causing conflict between sex-positivity and feminism. There’s quite a bit more to unpack here and I’ve been sitting with it for a while. It seems to me that these two movements have a lot to offer each other and could be really strong allies, […]

Over on the Good Vibrations Magazine, I received a comment from a woman whose husband travels a lot. The two of them have a non-monogamous relationship and she’s had some difficulty finding casual partners: I wanted to address your concept of having casual sex in a positive fashion, and how difficult that seems to be, […]

There’s been a flurry of articles recently about the shift on college campuses and within feminism about casual sex, hooking up, and abstinence. According to these stories on Salon.com, the Atlantic.com,  the New York Post, and others around the internet, women are discovering that casual sex doesn’t work for them and are embracing celibacy and […]

I received a comment recently from someone that I think brings up some really important topics: Unfortunately I found that there’s this binary in the feminist and/or sex-positive worlds: either you are against all porn and BDSM etc or you are sex-positive and therefore are unwilling to admit that sexuality all too often has a […]

But it often is. The NY Times has an article about the first Christian ministry to address porn addiction with female clients. I’ve written about my thoughts on sex addiction and I think that many of them carry over to porn addiction as well. The short version is that I recognize that many people feel […]

I’ve always said that if you can’t say no, then you can’t really say yes. The ability to consent requires the ability to freely choose either option. Unfortunately, a lot of people give in to their partner’s requests/demands as a way to minimize friction, avoid fights, or because it feels easier than speaking up. Giving […]