I’m delighted to announce the book launch events for The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men & Their Partners. Written by Aislinn Emirzian and me, with a foreword from the stellar Dr. Carol Queen and an afterword from the amazing Dr. Debby Herbenick, this guide gives you all of the info you need to discover […]

I have a confession to make. Taking no for an answer doesn’t always happen easily. See, there’s been a lot of conversation in different online and in-person communities that I move through about “creepy men.” I’ve even written this piece on five things men can do to not be creepy. Part of those discussions include […]

There’s a curious pattern I’ve seen a lot of people (including myself) do in close relationships. We often expect our partners, friends, and family members to appreciate the things we do for them without our having to tell them what we’ve done. I understand the impulse. Sometimes, it feels like telling people what I do […]

I field a lot of questions from people who want to become sex educators for adults and are looking for advice for where to get trained. So rather than answer them individually, I thought I’d write a post that I could link to and make my life easier. The first thing I need to say […]

Talking about sexually transmitted infections can be tricky. Most of the time, sex educators focus on how to have the conversation before you have sex. Reid Mihalko’s safer sex elevator pitch is a really good format for that: Reid’s Safer Sex Elevator Speech Write down your answers for each and then try it out on […]

Well, this was a fun way to start the work week. Apparently, there’s a twitter account, @HowlTweeter, that automatically posts one line from Allen Ginsburg’s Howl each hour. This tweet: who let themselves be fucked in the ass by saintly motorcyclists, and screamed with joy, — Howl (@HowlTweeter) December 10, 2012 showed up in Thorn […]

The way we present our gender to the world around us can have big effects on how people treat us, but so far, there isn’t much research on how gender nonconformity shapes our work lives. Of course, plenty of people have stories to tell, and my friend Alison Fogarty is looking for research participants for […]