I’ve been telling people how to have safe anal sex for a long time and one consistent bit of information is that you need to use a lubricant. Lube makes anal sex feel better and reduces the risk of hurting delicate tissues, so it’s one of the key factors when exploring anal play. Imagine my […]

I recently wrote about some of the things that I see causing conflict between sex-positivity and feminism. There’s quite a bit more to unpack here and I’ve been sitting with it for a while. It seems to me that these two movements have a lot to offer each other and could be really strong allies, […]

One of my Facebook friends posted a question recently that I think has a lot to do with sex: how do you differentiate holding non-negotiable boundaries from issuing ultimatums? This is one of those tricky questions that gets to the heart of relationships, communication, and (by extension) sex. On some level, both boundaries and ultimatums […]

Over on the Good Vibrations Magazine, I received a comment from a woman whose husband travels a lot. The two of them have a non-monogamous relationship and she’s had some difficulty finding casual partners: I wanted to address your concept of having casual sex in a positive fashion, and how difficult that seems to be, […]

This post also appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine. The internet is abuzz with the latest back and forth about porn between Apple and the rest of the world. Ryan Tate at Gawker.com had an interesting conversation with him, and he’s posted the entire thing here: Clipped from: gawker.com by clp.ly In particular, there are […]

There’s been a flurry of articles recently about the shift on college campuses and within feminism about casual sex, hooking up, and abstinence. According to these stories on Salon.com, the Atlantic.com,  the New York Post, and others around the internet, women are discovering that casual sex doesn’t work for them and are embracing celibacy and […]

Please pass this along to anyone who might be interested. Call for Participants: Sexually Able Sexually Able aims to bring light upon sexuality and dis/ability, and create a path for peoples’ voices to be heard. What is it? It’s a large scale survey of self identified people with disabilities and their partners.  Eventually, it’ll be […]