This also appeared on CarnalNation.com. As some of you may know, The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) is a document produced by the American Psychiatric Association. It serves as the official list of how we define mental health and mental health disorders. In a nutshell, if it’s in the DSM, it’s officially […]

A news report came out today that hits close to home for me. Literally, since it’s about something going on at my hometown high school. It seems that an annual tradition has evolved in which the senior girls create a “slut list” of the incoming first-year girls. According to ABC news, the list names of […]

You’d think that by now, I wouldn’t have to keep saying it. Well, ok, maybe not.  I can dream, can’t I? An article came out in Macleans yesterday about Good For Her, a fabulous sex toy store in Toronto and the amazing non-profit agency that they just launched, The Sexual Health, Education and Pleasure Project. […]

Sometimes, it seems like every time I turn around, someone else is freaking out about “protecting children from sex” which usually translates into withholding information, lying about sex and safety, pretending that teens aren’t sexual beings, and projecting a “do what I say, not what I did” message. Ironically, as Judith Levine points out in […]

Every so often, when talking with a customer about the DVDs, I’ll get this question: “do you have anything with women with real bodies?” And I have to say that it kind of yanks my chain. Ren has an interesting post on this at Feministe, which is what sparked this for me today. First off, […]

My latest article “The Case for Kink” just got posted on Carnal Nation. Here’s the opening, but you’ll have to go to the site for the rest of it (the link is below). One of the criticisms that gets leveled at BDSM players is the claim that BDSM is violence and that it reinforces social […]

via therumpus.net “It’s ok to be different because it just matters who you are. It doesn’t matter if you’re different than anybody else. It just matters if you’re having a good time and you like who you are.” Why does that seem so hard for so many people to understand?