One of the biggest difficulties queer, kinky, and/or polyamorous people face when looking for therapists or other mental health support is that professionals get very little training about any kind of sex, much less “alternative” sexualities. Despite the lack of any real correlation between being kinky (for example) and having mental health issues, many therapists […]

This post first appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine. Clipped from: bishuk.com (share this clip) One of the most common complaints people have about porn is that it offers an unrealistic model of sex. Penises are always big and hard, vaginas are always ready for deep, thrusting penetration, there’s no lube, warm-up for anal sex, […]

Clipped from: www.scarleteen.com (share this clip) Although I don’t identify as a feminist, I do describe myself as dedicated to fair and just treatment of all people, which includes working to end gender-based discrimination. One of the ways that this informs my work as a sex educator is that I advocate for accurate information that […]

This post first appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine. The Sydney Morning Herald posted an article about medical doctors downplaying the possible impact of prostate cancer treatments on erectile function. Apparently, many of them are concerned that men will avoid or discontinue treatment, rather than risk losing the ability to have an erection. All of […]

I’m teaching a workshop next week as part of the San Francisco Sex Information Continuing Education program. I’d love to see you there! Understanding Sex & Shame Tuesday, August 17th, 7-8:30 pm Audre Lorde room, Women’s Building, SF, 3543 18th Street, San Francisco, CA $15 or $5 for current San Francisco Sex Information volunteers Purchase […]

The always-fabulous Maymay shared this video made by a group of sex-positive feminists discussing their views on porn, sex work, sexual autonomy and the ongoing conversations debates fights with anti-porn feminists. I can’t say it better than they did, so click on the link and see for yourself. And pass it on.

The other day, I was interviewed by a reporter who asked me what I think the biggest challenge to sex in a long-term relationship is. I suspect that she was expecting me to say something like keeping the passion alive, or finding new things to try, or even that old standby, communication. But I think […]