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I’ve notice something. Or perhaps more accurately, I’ve given words to something I’ve been seeing for a while. There isn’t much room for delight in this world. That seems like a tragedy to me. I think that we’d all be much happier if more of us would give ourselves permission to feel it, to express […]

There’s been some really good discussion lately about sexual harassment at conferences and community events. I’ve mostly been tracking it via Greta Christina’s blog, though of course there are lots of other people talking about it. I’m really glad to see more conversation about what kinds of behaviors different communities consider acceptable, how to make […]

It’s always amazing to see how much the little things count, and how much resistance we sometimes have to doing them. It seems that there’s some new research showing that expressing gratitude and appreciation for your partner can make both of you happier in your relationship. While this is hardly groundbreaking news, it’s a good […]

One of the most common questions I hear about polyamory/open relationships/non-monogamy (aka poly) is “how is that different from cheating?” I can understand the confusion- if your definition of “cheating” is “having sex with someone other than your spouse,” then you’re likely to equate poly with breaking the rules. But I always wonder about that- […]

In the comments on my recent post, The Adaptive Value of Shame, I’ve been going back and forth with one person who’s of the opinion that shame is always detrimental. I disagree, and I want to unpack this a bit. When I say that there can be some value in the experience of shame, I’m […]

You might be surprised to hear me say that I don’t respect your beliefs. But let me explain what I mean by that. A few weeks ago, I had the pleasure of speaking on a panel with Greta Christina,  Maggie Mayhem, and Chris Hall on the topic of sex & atheism. One of the topics […]