I’m fascinated by the ways in which guilt and shame play out in our lives, especially our sexual lives. I don’t think there’s a sex educator out there who hasn’t had someone come to them with these feelings and, unfortunately, most of us don’t have much of an understanding of how these emotions work. It’s […]

Sometimes, it seems like every time I turn around, someone else is freaking out about “protecting children from sex” which usually translates into withholding information, lying about sex and safety, pretending that teens aren’t sexual beings, and projecting a “do what I say, not what I did” message. Ironically, as Judith Levine points out in […]

One of the issues that comes up over and over again when it comes to sex and relationships is that we need to take some chances if we want to grow, learn and change. That’s a rather trite cliche, but I’ve noticed that lots of people are afraid of taking chances when it comes to […]

A few days ago, I was following a Twitter conversation between @AlexaRPD and @audaciaray about the issue of mandatory disclosure of HIV status to sexual partners. In part, it was sparked by a news story about a sex worker whose arrest for prostitution became a felony rather than a misdemeanor because she’s HIV positive. And […]

Newsweek just posted a pretty good article about polyamory and I have to say- it makes a nice change. Unlike many of the mainstream articles I’ve seen on the topic, they did a good job of describing the relationships and the concepts of polyamory in ways that reflect how poly folks actually live. Of course, […]

Every so often, when talking with a customer about the DVDs, I’ll get this question: “do you have anything with women with real bodies?” And I have to say that it kind of yanks my chain. Ren has an interesting post on this at Feministe, which is what sparked this for me today. First off, […]

My latest article “The Case for Kink” just got posted on Carnal Nation. Here’s the opening, but you’ll have to go to the site for the rest of it (the link is below). One of the criticisms that gets leveled at BDSM players is the claim that BDSM is violence and that it reinforces social […]