One of the issues that comes up over and over again when it comes to sex and relationships is that we need to take some chances if we want to grow, learn and change. That’s a rather trite cliche, but I’ve noticed that lots of people are afraid of taking chances when it comes to exploring sex.
I think there are lots of reasons for that. Messages about what defines acceptable sexuality surround us and the possibility of stepping outside those limits can be scary. Internalized judgments about “those people” who like that activity can keep us from trying something because we might like it and that would mean that we’re part of “those people.” Fear of rejection or worries about how a partner might react to something new can hold us back. Not having support or role models to help us deal with the fear and uncertainty that can come up usually makes it harder. We each have our barriers around trying something new or discovering our sexual authenticity.
While this video isn’t about sex per se, I think it says something truly powerful about risk, failure and ultimate success. So take a look and think about how the message might apply to your sex life and your personal relationships.