I recently found out that the medication I use to help me manage my blood sugar has a tendency to lower testosterone levels. For a while, I’d been experiencing low energy, a decrease in my sexual desire, and feeling less focused, but those are all so nebulous that I hadn’t connected them until I participated […]

There are a lot of paths people take to becoming sex educators. One of the most common (and in some ways, simplest) is to become a workshop presenter. Having seen many different workshops and classes, though, I’ve observed some common pitfalls, so here are some suggestions for how to avoid them. Getting Started as a […]

I’m thrilled almost beyond words to announce the upcoming publication of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners, a book I wrote with my dear friend Aislinn Emirzian! We’ve been working on this project for a couple of years and the book is being published by Cleis Press in […]

There’s been an important shift in several different communities and scenes lately. In the kink world, in atheism circles, among feminist folks and their allies, in pagan communities, I’ve been seeing more people than ever before talking about the effects of sexual coercion, assault, harassment, unwanted attention, and other related topics. Of course, none of […]

There are a lot of reasons our sexual desires and interests don’t always match up with those of our partners. Changing tastes, medical or mental health challenges, busy work schedules, stress and juggling different demands, and simply having different libidos can make it hard to find a common ground. In both my personal life and […]

In some of the (mostly online) discussions I’ve seen around BDSM & kink, there’s a sticking point that seems to come up over and over. What does it mean when people say that they get turned on by “pushing boundaries”? I think this is worth unpacking because there are at least two different meanings to […]

One of the common concerns that men have when it comes to receiving prostate play or anal penetration is the fear that it implies anything about their masculinity. There are a lot of assumptions about being penetrated. It’s seen as “the woman’s role” or something that gay men do, so straight men are often hesitant […]