This also appeared in the Good Vibrations Magazine. Unless you’ve been avoiding the news lately, you’re probably aware that Tiger Woods is in the middle of the latest celebrity sex scandal. And I think that the media kerfulffle over this has a lot to tell us about what we think about sex. The first thing […]

Recently, I was in an email conversation about sex-positivity and the other person asked me how sex-positivity and boundaries work. Her confusion centered on the fact that it often seemed to her that people who identify as sex-positive have an “anything goes” outlook. I’ve said before that, in my experience, sex-positive people often have stronger […]

Let me start by coming out and saying something up front: I judge people. I judge events. I judge what I see happen around me. There’s a myth among sex-positive folks that it’s a good thing to be non-judgmental. And while I appreciate the intention behind it, which is (usually) to create a safe space […]

“Be what you are. This is the first step toward becoming better than you are.” ~Julius Charles Hare via tinybuddha.com Sex is a practice. So let me tell you what I mean. We live in a world that presents sex as something that we can do perfectly. If only we read the right tips in […]

I’ve been following the Rhode Island debates about whether to criminalize indoor sex work lately. Actually, a lot of why I’m following it is because the effervescent Megan Andelloux has been on the receiving end of a lot of hassle over the opening of the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health, an educational organization somewhat […]

Yesterday, I blogged about the The Sexual Health, Education and Pleasure Project in Toronto and some of Dr. Miriam Grossman’s backlash to accurate, pleasure-positive sex education. But there was one thing that she said that I want to come back to since it wasn’t quite on-topic yesterday. Here’s the quote from the Macleans article about […]

You’d think that by now, I wouldn’t have to keep saying it. Well, ok, maybe not.  I can dream, can’t I? An article came out in Macleans yesterday about Good For Her, a fabulous sex toy store in Toronto and the amazing non-profit agency that they just launched, The Sexual Health, Education and Pleasure Project. […]