You may have already heard about the Facebook group “Kill Your Hooker So You Don’t Have To Pay Her”. Apparently, after the group got reported as hate speech and taken down, the same person set up another group called “GTA Taught Me That If You Kill Your Hooker, You Get Your Money Back”. I don’t […]

This post first appeared on the Good Vibrations magazine. I ran across a link to a really post on Scarleteen, which is a fantastic sex ed for youth website. Much of the site is in the Q&A format, and this page was no different. The question came from a young woman who is considering becoming […]

This post first appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine. It’s hardly news that US culture is obsessed with youth. The massive amount of advertising for products to make us look or feel younger is ample evidence. While we generally think of this as more of a factor in terms of how we evaluate female attractiveness, […]

I’m teaching a couple of workshops at the California Institute of Integral Studies in March. Please help me get the word out! Understanding Sexual Shame and Moving Towards Sex-Positivity March 6 & March 13, 10 am-5:30 pm $125/$235 for both workshops 6 CEUs (MFT, LCSW, RN) available for each day CIIS Minna Street Center 695 […]

This article first appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine. There’s a pattern that I’ve seen in some circles to assume that people who describe themselves as sex-positive will do anything and everything. And while that affects anyone who moves in these communities, there’s a way in which it has an impact on women that’s different […]

CNN.com had an article the other day about some research that suggests that sex in movies doesn’t necessarily make them more popular. This seems to fly in the face of the movie industry’s common practices, which assume that putting a hot and steamy love scene is de rigeur. But I have to say that I’m […]

Sex-negativity, the belief that sex is inherently bad, is one of our most deeply rooted convictions. It is so deeply intertwined with our cultural norms that is becomes difficult to even begin to explore it, much less find ways to change it. One of the more subtle ways it affects us is in the way […]