This comment on another post has had me thinking. It’s in response to something I wrote about an anti-porn conference and the commenter is trying to make a point about “green sex” or “sustainable sex.” I like the motivation behind it, but I think he’s missing the mark. Here’s what he offered: For a positive […]

This post also appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine. The NY Times has an opinion piece up the other day by Ross Douthat, Why Monogamy Matters, which highlights what happens when people who don’t think all that clearly about sex write about sex. Douthat starts with the recent research from the Centers for Disease Control […]

This post also appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine. I don’t watch a lot of TV these days, but back when I did, there was a subplot on Friends when Rachel & Ross “took a break” in their relationship, during which Ross had sex with someone else. When they got back together, it turned into […]

Although more people are discovering and exploring polyamory, it can be hard to find the support you need. A lot of therapists assume that poly folks can’t make a commitment or believe that their problems are due to being poly even though they’re the same issues and difficulties monogamous people have. (The Poly Friendly Professionals […]

This post also appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine According to some new research, there’s more to oxytocin than we previously knew. Often called the “love hormone,” oxytocin is a neurotransmitter that is released during breastfeeding and orgasm. It enhances mother-child bonding, triggers uterine contractions and has been shown to increase bonding between adults, increase […]

Clipped from: jezebel.com (share this clip) The fabulous Clarisse Thorn wrote a great article in which she asks why men who are honest about their sexual desires get written off as creepy (among other things). It was originally posted on Alternet and it’s interesting to read through the comments and compare them to the comments […]

Ever since I wrote The Most Important Thing That Men Who Have Sex With Women Need to Know, I’ve been finding myself in more conversations with other men about how we manage our sexual energy. A few weeks ago, I was at an event, talking with a couple of friends about it and one of […]