I received a comment recently from someone that I think brings up some really important topics: Unfortunately I found that there’s this binary in the feminist and/or sex-positive worlds: either you are against all porn and BDSM etc or you are sex-positive and therefore are unwilling to admit that sexuality all too often has a […]

But it often is. The NY Times has an article about the first Christian ministry to address porn addiction with female clients. I’ve written about my thoughts on sex addiction and I think that many of them carry over to porn addiction as well. The short version is that I recognize that many people feel […]

I’ve always said that if you can’t say no, then you can’t really say yes. The ability to consent requires the ability to freely choose either option. Unfortunately, a lot of people give in to their partner’s requests/demands as a way to minimize friction, avoid fights, or because it feels easier than speaking up. Giving […]

I suppose I really shouldn’t be surprised that Eugene Delgaudio, the District Supervisor in Sterling, Virginia, is trying to stir up campaign contributions with a homophobic moral panic. Moral panics have always been a great way to scare people (usually with something imaginary) in order to distract them from what’s really going and get them […]

The ever-fabulous Becca got in touch with me recently and asked if I knew of a word for the receiving penetrative sex that’s more active. After all, you can be the one who gets penetrated and be the active one. Heck, you can even be the dominant one and be penetrated. But most of our […]

There’s a great piece on HuffPo about our continuing reluctance to deal with preventing sexually transmitted infections. Here’s the opening: Among the many vital health issues not addressed by healthcare reform is the state of our sexual health. There are 19 million new sexually transmitted disease (STD) infections in the United States each year according […]

Following up on my post What Do You Want?, I think it’s important to think about how we think about pleasure. Our relationship to pleasure is the foundation that shapes how we decide what we want and how to talk about that with someone else. I doubt that it’s a surprise to anyone when I […]