“As a queer person, I feel…” The other night, I was talking with someone who said something along these lines and although I’ve heard that kind of thing many times (with substitutions where it says “queer”), I finally figured out what it is about that phrase that bothers me. I had a teacher once who […]

I’ve been following the current debates about sexualization with a lot of interest, both because I want to live in a sexually healthy world and because these sorts of discussions often have a direct impact on my work as a sex educator. And while I’ve been sitting with the question of what a sex-positive response […]

This showed up in my RSS feed today. If you’re transgender or genderqueer, these lovely people would appreciate your input on trans-inclusive and respectful language. See below for details and pass it on! Greetings! Ten years ago, we conducted a short survey of our community’s reactions to the use of descriptive terminology in the professional […]

There’s a post on SexIs today from Roland Hulme, in which he shows that he almost gets how his privilege works. In his piece, he discusses the responses to a previous post of his, in which he wrote that (at the time), he was of the opinion that transgender people shouldn’t be able to change […]

Assuming that, despite the billboards I keep seeing everywhere, the Rapture doesn’t come on May 21, I’m thrilled to announce that that’s also the day of the 2011 Masturbate-a-thon! Actually, there’ll be some rapture either way, but I know which one I’m betting on. Solo sex is one of the best ways to learn about […]

From SlutWalk SF Bay’s Twitter feed: and your SlutWalk SF Bay committee is hard at work and we have a date for the event: JUNE 19TH, 2011 @ 12:00 PM!… http://fb.me/QHgOyxou — SlutWalk SF (@SlutWalkSFBAY) May 12, 2011 Click on the links to follow them on twitter or facebook. See you there!

When I read the post Some laughter with the lovemaking, please: on porn, performance, and deadly seriousness, I was struck by his observation: If there’s one thing that we see rarely — if at all — in porn, it’s laughter. What strikes me about most pornography is that it’s always so deadly serious. A nervous […]