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A nice one indeed, too nice to limit to the sexual realm. A CNC lathe has a chuck that automatically valprehends the workpiece. And so on.
..On second thought, it sounds more like a mental act, a form of comprehension that takes courage to acheive. I guess we need some more new words.
Omg. This is an Orwellian style moment- trying to change the language we use–> trying to change the way we think–> trying to change the “idea” that being penetrated is passive–> trying to change the REALITY of sex to suit an a-sexual feminist agenda.
A word has to be either a noun, name, adjective or verb. To penetrate is a verb as it’s something that is done by someone. Valprehenisve or whatever its called cannot be used in the VERB tense as you are not doing anything during it, unless the woman is on top. I cannot make up the word “ditgrahum” as the term to be SMACKED. Then when John comes along and smackes me in the face with the baseball bat I can say “Oh I ditagrahumed John in the face.” I am not doing anything therefore I cannot be carrying out a verb. You can’t bend the rules of language and common sense.
Get a grip of yourselves and start facing the truth about sex. Ladies, you are getting “fucked” even if you don’t like the sound of it or if it clashes with your a-sexual feminist outlook. The majority of confident, strong and feminine women don’t mind using the word, this is because they lack the same Daddy issues as you all do and are getting a good fucking on the reg.
James, if your idea of getting fucked is equivalent to passivity, to not “doing anything”, that says something unfortunate about your sex life. But then, so does equating this to “Daddy issues and not getting fucked enough”.
I disagree with James. It hadn’t occurred to me before, but I think this is a concept in search of a word, and valprehend will do.
If I open a girl’s mouth, grab her by the ears and stick my cock down her throat, I’m certainly penetrating her. But if I’m lying back and she takes my cock in hand and wraps her lips around it and slides her mouth over it until it’s down her throat, I’m not doing shit to her. She’s doing something to me, and until now it hasn’t had a name.
If, after a few martinis, I suction cup a dildo to the floor, position my ass over it, grit my teeth as my girlfriend looks on with delight (Don’t worry honey, as you always say “it won’t hurt a bit!”),and slide myself down over it, it seems stupid to say “this dildo is penetrating me”. IT isn’t doing anything, I am. And what am I doing (besides clenching my teeth)? Er, well, umm….aha! – “Valprehending” the dildo. Whew! Nice one!
Think of the Imperial Cruiser approaching Princess Leia’s ship. It opened its giant pod bay door and engulfed the smaller boat. I doubt Leia was thinking “Take that, we have penetrated you! How do you like them apples!?” Too bad it was a long time ago in a galaxy far, far away, or she could have said “Fuck! Boys, we’ve just been valprehended by a guy in a big black dildo costume!”
I notice, upon reading both your entry and Becca’s entry on the matter, that both of you seem to reject or hold as impossible the idea that more than one person can be an active participant in sex.
Why is this, and have your views on the subject evolved in the almost half-decade since you coined the term? Can both the penetrator and valprehender be active now or is it still a zero-sum game between them?
The need for this term, is absolutely there, and the intent is very well placed, however as a word, to be used in the heat of the moment, it’s clumsy… and etymologically it’s also vague and hard to place for a native english speaker (as close to one as I am) perhaps taking the word “envelop” which doesnt indeed cover the term, and combining with “valprehending” to form “velping” ? I’m not the originator of the term so it’s not my place, but those are concerns I’ve had in conversations about the term.