I’m delighted to announce the book launch events for The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men & Their Partners. Written by Aislinn Emirzian and me, with a foreword from the stellar Dr. Carol Queen and an afterword from the amazing Dr. Debby Herbenick, this guide gives you all of the info you need to discover […]

Talking about sexually transmitted infections can be tricky. Most of the time, sex educators focus on how to have the conversation before you have sex. Reid Mihalko’s safer sex elevator pitch is a really good format for that: Reid’s Safer Sex Elevator Speech Write down your answers for each and then try it out on […]

Well, this was a fun way to start the work week. Apparently, there’s a twitter account, @HowlTweeter, that automatically posts one line from Allen Ginsburg’s Howl each hour. This tweet: who let themselves be fucked in the ass by saintly motorcyclists, and screamed with joy, — Howl (@HowlTweeter) December 10, 2012 showed up in Thorn […]

There’s some new research about women’s experiences of receiving anal play, and it’s worth taking a look at. About 2000 heterosexual women who experienced anal intercourse at least twice in the previous year were asked about the level and frequency of pain. Almost half (48.8%) had to discontinue the experience because of pain or discomfort, […]

I’m thrilled almost beyond words to announce the upcoming publication of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners, a book I wrote with my dear friend Aislinn Emirzian! We’ve been working on this project for a couple of years and the book is being published by Cleis Press in […]

In some of the (mostly online) discussions I’ve seen around BDSM & kink, there’s a sticking point that seems to come up over and over. What does it mean when people say that they get turned on by “pushing boundaries”? I think this is worth unpacking because there are at least two different meanings to […]

One of the common concerns that men have when it comes to receiving prostate play or anal penetration is the fear that it implies anything about their masculinity. There are a lot of assumptions about being penetrated. It’s seen as “the woman’s role” or something that gay men do, so straight men are often hesitant […]