Something I Want Men To Know Before Flirting With Women

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There’s been an important shift in several different communities and scenes lately. In the kink world, in atheism circles, among feminist folks and their allies, in pagan communities, I’ve been seeing more people than ever before talking about the effects of sexual coercion, assault, harassment, unwanted attention, and other related topics. Of course, none of […]

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Opening to Receiving

One of the common concerns that men have when it comes to receiving prostate play or anal penetration is the fear that it implies anything about their masculinity. There are a lot of assumptions about being penetrated. It’s seen as “the woman’s role” or something that gay men do, so straight men are often hesitant […]

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“Is BDSM Feminist?” is the Wrong Question to Ask

I’ve been having conversations about the meaning of BDSM for a long, long time. Part of that is that I’ve been doing various things that generally fall in the kink category since I was about 19. Part of that is that sex educators have these sorts of talks with a lot of different people. Part […]

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The World Will Be A Better Place When More Men Take It Up The Ass

There are lots of things we can do to make the world a better place. We can reduce our consumption of irreplaceable resources, we can develop our capacity to bring compassion to our relationships, we can support people in crisis or need- there’s plenty to be done. And there’s one thing that I think has […]

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The Men In My Life

It’s not just the women in my life who amaze me. The men in my life are some of the most inspiring people imaginable. The men in my life are strong. Not in the “I have to be stronger than anything the universe throws at me” kind of way. These men are strong enough to […]

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The Women In My Life

My rss feed pointed me to an unsurprising article about a talk that Phyllis Schlafly gave as part of a new course offered at The Citadel, Conservative Intellectual Tradition in America. According to her: “Feminists are having a hard time being elected because they essentially are unlikable,” she said. Schlafly talked to a group of […]

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If You Want Me To Not See You As An Enemy, Stop Doing The Things My Enemies Do: An Open Letter to Z Budapest

A little background: I’ve been going to PantheaCon, an annual convention for pagan spiritual groups and communities, for many years. It’s a really fun con, with some amazing workshops, discussions, rituals, and parties. At the 2011 con, some transgender women tried to attend a ceremony that was advertised in the program as open to women, […]

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