One of the most common pieces of advice that you’ll ever hear about sex is “communicate with your partner(s)”. And while that sounds good, it can be difficult to follow. Almost everyone has ways in which talking about sex brings up challenges. Perhaps you don’t have the language to ask for what you want. Or […]

I’ve been following the development of KinkForAll for a while and I’ve heard great things about it. It’s an “unconference” that intends to “inspire a creative, interactive and open environment where everyone feels comfortable discussing, learning about, and discovering the intersections of all kinds of sexuality with the rest of life.” Sounds fun, right? It […]

This also appeared on CarnalNation.com. As some of you may know, The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) is a document produced by the American Psychiatric Association. It serves as the official list of how we define mental health and mental health disorders. In a nutshell, if it’s in the DSM, it’s officially […]

My latest article “The Case for Kink” just got posted on Carnal Nation. Here’s the opening, but you’ll have to go to the site for the rest of it (the link is below). One of the criticisms that gets leveled at BDSM players is the claim that BDSM is violence and that it reinforces social […]

If you’re kinky and looking for folks to connect with, you might find Facebook to be a bit vanilla for your tastes. Plus, Facebook doesn’t give you too many options for relationship types. If you’re polyamorous, have a play partner, a life partner and a submissive, Facebook simply can’t handle that. If you want a […]

One more post for today. The new Leather Archives & Museum exhibit is gathering community input in order to develop a library of the best BDSM-related books. Clarisse Thorn (who, by the way, has a fab blog that I highly recommend) has created an online poll to make it easier to make sure that nothing […]

<full disclosure> I’m on the Advisory Committee for the Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities (CARAS) </full disclosure> CARAS is conducting an online survey to assess the educational needs of the BDSM community. The goals of the project are to identify what educational needs people have, determine what practices educators and organizers have, and […]